We Can Agree to Disagree, Civily

From the beginning, I’ve used the “moderate comments” feature of WP, mostly because I wanted to keep this little blog family-safe and PG-rated, regardless of the topic. And up until a few weeks ago, we were all playing nicely. I won’t say when and who, but since I’ve written some posts about two feuding candidates, the quality of comments took a nosedive.

I’m NOT saying I delete comments that disagree with my position on the issue dujour. In fact, if you take the time to look back through two year’s worth of posts, you’ll see plenty of disagreement. Debate is a healthy thing – our founding fathers thrived on it and those lofty debates are the foundation of our great country. Even then, though, there was an expected code of decorum, especially in public. (The press was a different matter then, and obviously they haven’t learned much!)

What I AM saying is that I delete comments that are profane or highly offensive or inappropriate. And I will continue to do so, no matter how many emails are sent calling me a coward or worse. You can call me names all you want. First of all, it belies a less-than-stellar upbringing. Secondly is a telling sign that the important parts of your brain aren’t firing – if all you can come up with is a couple of nasty names, instead of facts to back up your argument.

I will defend to the death everyone’s RIGHT to speak freely. I can only wish certain commenters would do the same for me.

That being said, what follows below is a “Comments Policy”, adapted from those seen at The Anchoress (and with her permission).

Opinions in the comments section do not necessarily reflect those of the Blog Administrator. The Blog Administrator is NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR COMMENTARY CONTENT.

1) No referring to Presidents, ex-presidents, or others by disgusting or vulgar nicknames. I don’t do it myself – out of respect for the office, and also because it is simply infantile – and I would prefer it not be done on my site. A simple last name is sufficient. And since we’re all about keeping it civil, if you are truly civil, you won’t want to defame or slander anyone, anyway. If I suspect it is slander, I’ll delete it immediately.

2) No carrying on about what people look like. I never comment on people’s looks or weight (unless I can do so positively) because there is enough of that in the world, and deriding people for their looks is – again – infantile. I will comment about grooming, though, as in “please wash your freaking hair,” or whatever, but overall, people’s appearances are not fodder for this site. I’d appreciate it if commenters did not refer to other people – even public figures, who are considered “fair game” for a lot of scorn – as “fat pigs” or “bubble-eyed” or whatever, just as I’d rather they didn’t waste their time attacking other commenters. It’s just about being civil and acting like adults. That sort of writing betrays one’s interior noise and adds nothing to one’s argument.

3) I have no problem with hell, damn, balls, cojones, or crap, nor “bitch” when it is used as a verb or you are quoting Designing Women. Asshat is sometimes an absolutely necessary word in the English language. Beyond that, don’t tempt me. If you are inclined to the F-word, “freaking” will do quite nicely, and as stated before, both C-words (male and female) will get you banned until you grovel as you have never grovelled before.

4) No taking the name of the Lord in vain. I don’t care whether He’s your Lord or not, I’d ask you to respect my sensibilities, here. If that offends you, think of compliance with my wishes as being multi-culti tolerant, then it should sit better.

5) Don’t use a fake email address. I’m not interested in emailing you, but if you’re going to register with the email address “Die_Obis_Sister_Die@mail.com”, well, obviously, I’m not going to welcome you. I mean, I’m a tolerant sort of gal, but if you’re going to wish death on me or those I love or to our elected officials/their families, go do it somewhere else.

6) Please try to stick to the topic at hand. I know debates can meander, but when things devolve into unruliness and name-calling, I will close a discussion. I’m just not into that crap.

See? That wasn’t hard, was it? Now for those that need PICTURES, Dr. Sanity had an excellent illustration the other day….

How to Disagree


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